Biking4Dads, a very smart judge, VAWA video, more...

Because a Promise made should be a Promise kept.

Arnie Hein made a Promise to his children.
A Promise he will do everything in his power to keep.

"In my eyes I see that I have been removed from the children, and the children removed from me. This is kidnapping." Recently he discovered that many other fathers are suffering the same painful fate. He is cycling across Canada to raise awareness of this problem.

"I need other fathers to know they are not alone. I want to unify the men and children abused by this Family Court System. It is important that the general public becomes aware of this problem."

Please join Arnie as he lights candles in the name of his 3 children and one for all of Canada's other children and fathers on Wednesday, October 5th at 11:00am-1:00pm at the Centennial Flame on Parliament Hill.

Also:

OCTOBER 15th, NOON AT QUEEN’S PARK, TORONTO

Ride around the park for 4 hours in support of Arnie Hein and his trek.

Bring your bike, scooter, roller blades, tricycle or whatever, decorated in red and white.

Snacks and refreshments will be provided.

You can reach Arnie at ahein@crossmyheart.ca
You can see Arnie's website at crossmyheart.ca

Thank you Fathers4Justice-Canada



Hurray for New York State Supreme Court Justice John Bivona!

(I'd prefer to see the moveaway denied,
but at least this is a step in the right direction.)

Judge Bivona declared:

"Visitation with a parent is not the privilege of the parent but the right of the child. Both [the father and the boy] must have this right preserved by maximizing defendant's opportunity to maintain a positive and nurturing father-son relationship."

Newsday article here.

Candlelight Vigil for Equal Parenting New York, September 29

North Country Gazette article here.



From Marc Snider of New Hampshire Custody:

A short video segment showing the truth about the Violence Against Women Act (VAWA) as presented on San Diego's Fox6 Television. (click the link)

"A life changing thing forever..." And this man didn't even suffer as tragically as many falsely accused who have lost access to their children.

(the truth: "An estimated 40.8 percent of child victims were maltreated by their mothers acting alone; another 18.8 percent were maltreated by their fathers acting alone; 16.9 percent were abused by both parents." - pdf report here)




The original Fathers4Justice is back in the news. The crusaders who broke into the Big Brother compound were given fines and the 2004 Father Christmas trial has started.

How to Accept Yourself in 10 Ways
from Beliefnet.com

Judith Herman points out in Trauma and Recovery that you aren't responsible for the harm that was done to you, but you are responsible for your recovery. In other words, your freedom lies not in protesting the unfairness of the violation or in getting the offender to care. Your freedom — perhaps your only freedom — is in deciding how to survive and transcend the injury. Don't underestimate this freedom: it's enormous. With it comes the power to decide how you're going to live the rest of your life. As you take the task of healing into your own hands, you empower and make peace with the past.

The Ten Steps of Acceptance

Step 1: You honor the full sweep of your emotions.

Step 2: You give up your need for revenge but continue to seek a just resolution.

Step 3: You stop obsessing about the injury and reengage with life.

Step 4: You protect yourself from further abuse.

Step 5: You frame the offender's behavior in terms of his own personal struggles.

Step 6: You look honestly at your own contribution to the injury.

Step 7: You challenge your false assumptions about what happened.

Step 8: You look at the offender apart from his offense, weighing the good against the bad.

Step 9: You carefully decide what kind of relationship you want with him/her.

Step 10: You forgive yourself for your own failings.